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I know LGBT people personally and professionally and was completely unaware of Pronouns until the first season of Billions. It made me think maybe it was an East Coast thing finally migrating West, but still, to this date, I don't know anyone who introduces themselves or specifies their pronouns. I haven't gone out of my way to avoid or encounter them.

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You sound ridiculous because pronouns are just a normal part of speech which you have already demonstrated you use fluently. What you actually mean is that you hadn't encountered people specifying their preferred pronouns explicitly before. It's a thing you're most likely to encounter if you meet a trans/NB person where it's not entirely obvious from their presentation (especially online where you otherwise have a handle and a profile pic, both of which may be quite ambiguous. Women in tech are likely to do this even if not trans because of the strong tendency to assume male by default), or in spaces/from people who are trying to be inclusive of such (though, frankly, it's usually best dealt with a section in a bio or a badge. Even in the most queer spaces I've been in I don't think I've ever heard some say out loud "Hi, I'm X, pronouns foo/bar". Usually it's pretty obvious what they're going for, and if not, they'll have a badge or perhaps politely correct you if you assume wrong).

Sry but that pedantic correction is what sounds ridiculous.

You even understood him since you said “what u actually mean”

It’s exactly this kind of moral preachery nonsense that puts people off, more than actual pronouns imo

I stated it because it's entirely possible they didn't actually understand this, and that pronouns were entirely "some trans thing". Words do have meanings and it causes problems when they're used imprecisely like this. You can see other reactions that show less helpful responses to this confusion, because to many people the statement does just sound ridiculous. The intended meaning is a lot more understandable, and I'm quite sympathetic to it. My message is not meant be some dunk or preach about moral superiority, just an explaination for why they're getting the reaction that they are (which could, on reflection, be less blunt, sorry)

So this issue clearly doesn’t affect your life in any real tangible way, and yet for some reason it’s so triggering to you that you felt compelled to jump in on a thread about it, and I’d sure wager this isn’t the first time. Again, Why Are You Here? What makes this such a hot-button topic for you that, despite it having no actual affect on you at all, the mere act of someone announcing their pronouns in an online forum is sufficient to compel this kind of reaction from you?

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