I have the impression, when women have systemic struggles people tend to believe it's the society's fault and when men have systemic struggles people tend to believe it's the individual's fault.
This also applies in other matters like race relations for example. People whom historically have been afforded better opportunities suffer when people from all races are treated fairly. That is what justice looks like. Not having an unfair and unjust entitlement does not translate to suffering from a systemic issue. Accepting just and fair outcomes and adapting to a current reality is a healthy way of adapting.
The reason I feel strongly about this is because historically, when groups of people have a social complaint and they feel wronged and their entitlements taken away from them, they tend to turn to violence or some other social harm. They end up implementing injustice at mass scale. For example, regardless of your views on the topic, abortion laws in America today are designed to degrade liberties of women (regardless of anyone's intent). Fairness and equality to all members of society is not a systemic issue that needs correction. Failing to obtain a romantic partner of interest is not an unfair situation, for men or for women alike.
If you say yes, think about what expectations for men there are and whether those constitute a systemic issue. Hint: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ma8h0...
The best thing you can do is actually listen to the things the boys and men say about why they are depressed, feel disadvantaged, etc. instead of just dismissing them and saying they just have to learn how to deal with it. There really is quite a lot of truth in there to be found.
> The best thing you can do is actually listen to the things the boys and men say about why they are depressed, feel disadvantaged, etc. instead of just dismissing them and saying they just have to learn how to deal with it. There really is quite a lot of truth in there to be found.
No, that is not the best I can do. the best i can do is refer them to someone equipped to help people like a psychologist, pastor, priest or their own parents even. I did not dismiss their struggle or situation, I am dismissive of their blaming of society or women for their situation. We all have our struggles, blaming others unfairly should not be tolerated. They are hostile and dismissive towards the fact that people get to make choices over their own bodies. The moment they start holding other people or society responsible, then I consider them hostile and anti-social elements instead of humans worthy of care and compassion. So long as they accept other people's rights to make choices that affect them, then their struggles are worthy of societal care and empathy from others.
Sorry, no one gets to undermine other people's rights and liberties and then ask for compassion or understanding.
Nope. You can't say "designed" and say "regardless of intent". Pick one. Either they were designed (and therefore done with intent), or not done with intent (and therefore not designed).
Perhaps you meant "have the effect" instead of "designed"?