That is an extremely unlikely scenario because both intelligent life forms would have had to evolve before either of them developed space flight. It took homo sapiens 4 Gyr to evolve in the first place but only 100 kyr to develop space flight after that. So the odds are slim to none.
If Venus had a superintelligent species today, we would likely be pets or food.
If it had a superintelligent species 100,000 years ago, we will never know (or not know for quite a while).
And if it has life now that is evolving into something intelligent or superintelligent in 100,000 years, who knows if humanity will still be here to find.
What scale of 'device a way to signal back visually' could done with 1600's era manufacturing and technology?
I'll admit, it'd take a lot of effort/money to communicate and it'd be pretty slow, but it's not impossible to happen just decades (or perhaps even within a decade) of when its figured out that they had neighbors. Not hundreds of years.
That said, we'd have to throw much bigger rocks to penetrate their atmosphere. And the likely (to me) actual plans would be:
Us: launch to the Moon, set up there, launch rocks from the Moon to Venus.
Venusians: launch and travel to the asteroid belt, launch an asteroid toward Earth.
The more I think about it, the more I realize that our plan would be the same as theirs: we'd both be heading for the asteroid belt, because nothing we could reasonably launch from the Moon would put a dent in Venus with that atmosphere.
And if we assume they actually can launch through that atmosphere, we're screwed: if they can do that, they're way ahead of us.
The situation I replied to assumed they were both inhabitable planets which I assume means Earth like atmosphere on Venus. The thick atmosphere complicates things, but I don't think you actually have to hit the ground. Tunguska didn't even get near the ground and it still leveled 1000 km^2. Also if Venus has the atmosphere there's no point of a war since there's no benefit to conquest in either direction.