Both are a problem. I should not conflate the two.
I agree. Asking questions which are normal in my own field resulted in stonewalling and obvious distress. The worst thing being this leading to the end of what was a good relationship.
I agree. Asking questions which are normal in my own field resulted in stonewalling and obvious distress. The worst thing being this leading to the end of what was a good relationship.
If not, you might consider whether you have actionable information yourself, any professional obligations you have (e.g., if you work in science/health/safety yourself), any societal obligations, whether reporting the allegation would be betraying a trust, and what the calculus is there.