Hah, seriously? Is that even a valid excuse?
Nearly every country I know of has solved the married woman name-change issue. The US literally does not have a process to manage official name changes?
It's literally so darn simple everywhere - previous official issued ID, marriage license copy, 2 newspaper ads stating the name change. There might be minor variations here and there depending on the country, but that's all you need to get your name changed anywhere on official documents. The real headache comes in changing previous unofficial documents afterwards, such as certificates, etc.
This is literally not an excuse for the Arsenal of Democracy.