AFAIK, in America, ISPs are required to permit user-provided modems as long as those modems are technologically compatible. I believe the Television Viewer Protection Act of 2019 did this, although it was already the norm for ISPs to permit third party modems before this.. I guess because they knew if they pushed the issue they'd lose anyway, given the precedent of telephones, cable cards, etc.

The problem then with Starlink is nobody is manufacturing compatible third party Starlink terminals, at least yet.