There is this thing we might refer to as “the burn.” You know, like “burn your ass to get it done.” Only for knowledge workers, it is an ember in the mind that goes and goes and goes and goes.
Learn to fan that flame without the burn out.
That is the secret of the way.
Burn your ass until your mind incinerates self doubt. You will learn it is faster to try some things than wonder if they might work.
Burn your ass until those reasons why not are forgotten, or are repulsive.
Burn your ass until all of those things others say cannot be done without a team are done out of boredom waiting for others to get on the same page.
There is no book, only determination, and outcome.
Some day you will realize everyone else is 90% lazy and you will adjust your work life balance in accordance.