Friend circles can be just as bad at excluding or ostracising others in the group for the pettiest of reasons.
There’s always going to be a shot caller or instigator behind it and everyone else who is weak willed will get on board with it.
There’s always going to be a shot caller or instigator behind it and everyone else who is weak willed will get on board with it.
Toxic people gonna toxic.
> There’s always going to be a shot caller or instigator behind it and everyone else who is weak willed will get on board with it.
Yeah, a major factor was lots of people putting up with some real bullshit for years to try to keep the peace. That, and the ones who did try to do something about it approached the problem-people one-on-one, which just led to them being lied to ("oh no, there's no problem between us") and then smeared even harder to others, and marginalized, having no idea why any of it was happening.
They tend to have some form of serious mental illness and/or a major substance problem they're not interested in addressing, which leads to emotional dysregulation. So not exactly great people to have around anyway.
Have I lost friends over it? Yes. But that's fine, having no friends is better than having fake friends who undermine you.
I tend to call people out, too. I keep the ones that take it gracefully.
Quality > quantity. :)