In general,

1) Concerns about EV Battery durability are overblown. https://spectrum.ieee.org/ev-battery-life

2) "very fast charging" should not be the default, it should be rare. It's there to answer the other concern: "But what if I want to road trip?".

As you say, the default is overnight at home or during the day at office or a mall, with the software giving you that "topped up as specified, every morning", that's better than what an a ICE vehicle can provide.

You can decide for yourself how valid these concerns really are, and to what extent EV critics like to inflate them beyond what's real. But nevertheless, they are being addressed.