We ought to change the whole IT terminology then. We keep killing parents and children. Context absolutely matters. Lack of context awareness is a deficit one should work on.
By calling out and avoiding dog-whistles, even including accidental Nazi slogans (once pointed out), we reduce the impact of this attack on good-faith discussion and actual increase the level of openness and being up-front with our opinions.
One key difference between this and virtue signaling or thought policing is that it's the specific wording that is avoided, and not the underlying thoughts or opinions.
> thought policing is that it's the specific wording that is avoided, and not the underlying thoughts or opinions.
So we should avoid the wording / phrasing such as "killing children" in IT? It refers to well-known concepts, within a specific context. It is bad outside of IT, for sure, but not inside IT, it refers to ending processes (as you probably already know)
I may have used it unintentionally too, because "final solution" makes a lot of sense to use. The best way to ruin one's language is to keep using such common phrases that refer to such negative things. You know, there would not be a way to ruin it if people were just aware of the context and were not to attribute malice by default. It was probably accidental, like you said.
I think the issue is with this not-so-generous interpretation of it by default, or reading too much into it.
Do not allow your language to be ruined, and you could do a lot to help that cause.