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Greetings from Istanbul. Unfortunately what you describe in your blog post sounds impossible to me in (at least many districts of) Istanbul. The only place to "socialize" in a neighborhood is to sit at coffee shops.

I lived on a street in Cihangir for three years. In the walk to and from work I'd pass several shops and cafes, and got to know all of the owners and regulars.

Cihangir is kinda an exception though, where most expats live. I also lived there!

Happy reader for a while. For HN readers, if you want to have a setup where you live near friends and/or family, check their posts: https://supernuclear.substack.com/archive?sort=top

> they would comment on who slept over

> landlady said she nearly let herself into my home to make sure I hadn't died because no one had seen me in a few days.

You sound way less bothered by that than I would be. I'm annoyed just reading it.

I’ve lived in scenarios where people saying either of these things would be a huge violation, and I’ve lived in scenarios where people saying either of these things would be natural.

Living in the latter scenario is a far better place, and nothing like, the former scenario.

100% agree! We had moved to a smaller community in New England and was eating an early dinner when we got a single knock on the door. Before we could get up, the UPS driver opened our door to place the packages inside (and out of the snow). He waved and welcomed us and then off we went. It was a bit odd, but then we realized this was a special place that we would come to love and we did.

I think it's a genuine concern as a landlord. Do you want to have a rotting corpse in your house/neighborhood just sitting there?

Well, you should be able to leave for a week without having to tell your neighbors all about it. It may be different for old weak people who are unlikely to just go to vacation all of a sudden.

While that might be the case, a 'landlord' can't just enter a house or apartment.

>isn't just about being able to borrow cup of sugar

this in particular is interesting to me because you used it to illustrate the minimum level of neighborly engagement, but I think many of us don't even reach that level. I for one would never think of asking my neighbor for cooking ingredients; in fact the idea of going over and knocking on their door for any purpose is almost inconceivable to me unless there was a medical emergency.

Not saying my mindset is right or even healthy, but that's how it is. There's a lot of work to be done.

Thanks for your work - too bad I started reading the article and as a popup appeared over it, I had to close it.