My friends went through a phase in their 20's where they were comparing themselves to social media people. They all struggled with feeling inadequate.
I waited until my mid life crisis to do that. They're getting to do it again.
Fascinating.
Everytime I open FB, and scroll a little, I feel like an outsider looking into a crazy circus of clown people. I don't get why others don't see what I see.
"I just graduated" - someone whose sibling I met 15 years ago, but whose name I wouldn't recognize without a picture attached
"So proud of my daughter" - a mother who attended a piano concert, couldn't wait to even get home before posting on fb, and will tell her family at dinner how many of her adult friends commented on it, whom none if her family care about.
<vacation selfie> - middle school classmate, or former colleague, who posts swiss climbing and bali surfing images every week, as if they had no life no work just money to burn.
"<long story>, so anyway, that's where I found this purse, please share and repost. You have to prove ownership by reciting the washing machine instructions on the label." - individual who has nothing happening in their life, so they make a blockbuster adventure out of someone's misfortune, rather than handing the purse to the reception in the restaurant where they found it.
Oh, and I always see ten new invitations from people, who would never contact me individually, to events those people know I would never attend, for the nth time despite me never having reacting before.l
The issue is not sharing little "uninteresting" things about your life, it’s sharing them with a random audience.
If what you’re saying works for you that’s fantastic! It absolutely didn’t work for me. My assessment is that I lack the discipline required.
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It allows me to look at individual posts which lets me search and view specific answers, but blocks the lists of posts. I get the benefit of Reddit without getting sucked into the time wasting feed.
My concern in doing this would be that there is an authentic profile out there under my real name, now entirely (and effectively forever) beyond my control.
(They don’t seem to do anything beyond gather some followers from her… maybe they’re DMing those followers through)
(I have the same experience with my dupes, except I’m not active, though I am more active than my dupes)
I once tried to create a new account with my real name in order to maintain Facebook Business Manager without using my private account. The new account was immediately locked until I added a phone number. I added my business number, which was immediately rejected. I added my personal number which immediately resulted in my private account being locked instead.
So I gave up and don’t use Facebook for my business.
I have an alternate profile that’s also under my real name which is 10+ years old, previously used to keep a distinction between friends and family, and it works just fine.
2. Enjoy increased quality of life
Easier said than done, but those are the only steps
I found it gives me just enough friction that most of the time, the impulse to open the app passes while I wait for the breath timer to run out. Simply using the OS screen time limit on its own is not really enough, because it's too easy to dismiss and override the block. Having a brief timer to help you consider whether my action is intentional or driven by anxiety or thoughtless boredom really helps.
Not being on Facebook is burying your head in a hole? I mean, really, why say something like that?
To all ya working on making these misery machines even more efficient - you never feel ashamed of yourself for what you do? Is the money really worth losing respect for oneself and others as a good human being? Or it attracts same crowd as founder - asocial high performing sociopaths who couldn't care less?