> I just wish project leads/managers would listen a bit more to the community rather than arrogantly dictating "It will be done this way, deal with it".

You say that looking at single side of the coin. On the other side, the story is different. The devs receives several feature tweaks every single day. One can give detailed responses for only so much longer. There will be one time when you just cant write a satisfying response because it is not your main job.