Hacker News Reader

Comment by nextts | Hacker News Reader

Kids younger. You miss out on parties and travel but then your brain will get likely rewired to not care/regret that when you are older. Plus then at 40 you can start your startup. One tip is to make the 20 years of work lead to the unfair advantage for that startup.

Hard to pay for a family on a 20 yo salary for most though.

View on HN

We had kids younger (very early in our 20s) and while it was difficult financially for a time, I definitely wouldn’t change it. Especially after seeing friends who waited. I think having younger kids in your later 30s and 40s put some hard miles on you.

I have young kids mid 50s. it's tough, but keeps me young, active and I believe more enjoyable as a person (not that I'm much of that lol).

I've spent all my 20s coding and learning and actively decided against relationship, as that would have completely eaten my time and I wouldn't enjoy how that time was spent.

If I could choose an age to start having kids, it would be 33. Still enough appetite for other stuff, but also a good amount of desire to procreate.

I’m late 50s, having kids younger means I now have young grandkids. The nice thing about them is they keep me young and active, but when they smell funny, have snotty noses, or when I’m just tired—-I can hand them back to their parents.

The best thing about grandkids, is no one really gets mad when you do the old “pull my finger” trick. You’re an old man and it’s expected of ya.

Late 20s or early 30s depending on how stable the rest of your life is would be my recommendation. But any time that works is better than no kids at all

Reply on news.ycombinator.com