I grew up on a dairy farm, and while I'm sure some farmers operate exactly as you describe, I'm not sure you should paint the whole industry with one brush. Every farmer has their own opinions on how their operation should be operated, so every farm will be vastly different.
> They are kept on a stream of antibiotics
This was never true on our farm. Cows would be treated if sick, but that is it. I don't even remember them being sick all that often. The biggest problems were always related to calving complications (see below).
> They often develop mastitis
This largely came down to choices made by the animal, like laying in the muck even when there's a nice fresh bed of straw nearby. No farmer wants to see a cow with mastitis, even if just for profit reasons so you always do your best to try to avoid the problem.
> The females are placed into small "igloos" with no chance for grazing or physical contact until they are old enough to reproduce.
You mean until they are old enough to feed on their own. The reason they are individualized in early life is because otherwise the stronger calves will eat all of the food and who wants to see a calf starve? Even while in the hutch ("igloo"), the calves are free to interact with the nearby calves in other hutches.
> Male dairy cows are used for veal (and I'm sure you know how that goes).
I'm not sure the general population does know how that goes. I've heard all kinds of horrific stories about how veal calves, specifically, are mistreated. The only differentiator for veal is the age of the animal, otherwise they live like any other beef calf.
> Then it's 4 or 5 years of constant pregnancy and milking until they are "spent" at the ripe ole age of 6.
I remember plenty of cows that were milked for far longer, but we definitely lost a lot during calving, and as a result of that 4-5 years probably isn't far off the average milking span. Sadly, calving is hard on the animal. To be fair, this is something humans equally struggled with until the advent of modern medicine.