One of the biggest problems that grows with each generation, is how do you get the youth to actually engage in constructive development of real skills? How do you get them to be interested in something that will be useful for society down the line? Quietly looking the other way while a statistical minority breaks some of the safety-rails of society basically solves that problem. Breaking the rules is cool. You're basically exploiting the rebellious nature of the youth to trick them into learning useful skillsets. So long as the hurdles to circumvent the rules remain reasonably involved to overcome, and the secret intention remains unspoken, you basically double up the rewards of the rules.
I mean it’s not that I disagree with you, but this is what you are saying!!!
Moving the verification to sites also isn't going you any good, as the site owners could just move to more liberal countries.