The difference is that every time someone buy one of his car it increases his wealth. And his wealth is what enable him to do what he is doing. There is a direct link even if people want to bury their head in the sand.
If you don't have an iPhone or Meta account or NFL pass (or ...) then you can complain without being a hypocrite. That's great.
Or you can say those things aren't as significant to you right now, so they don't compare. In which case, you'll surely realize that others may come to similar conclusions about Tesla. Say, valuing the lives of third world workers more than the political state of the US