I guess I'm the opposite. If you're working with me, please use nicer and kinder language when talking to me.
If you can trust that someone will be direct with you whenever you're annoying them, it means that you don't have to spend time/effort trying to divine some hidden or subtle meaning in every normal/non-confrontational communication they send your way.
The point is that little kids experience all kind of much nastier "non-professionall behavior" in school, yet when we say to adult "fuck you" all hell breaks loose. Pathetic.
Not everything in life is about utility, some people want to just feel nice and don’t deal with your negative energy and that is completely fine.
At work, it's about utility, not about being nice, looking good, making jokes.
At your home, you can feel nice and demand of others to do so.
> At work, it's about utility, not about being nice, looking good, making jokes.
At best your message sounds rude, at worst you sound like a jerk. And I say that as someone who used to think like you.
I care about the job being done correctly, efficiently. I care about the users. I don't care about poor IT developers, who have the worst life can offer (sarcasm). Get some perspective, man!
If you can't take "fuck you" or equivalent while passionately doing something, just move away, let the grown-ups do the thing, don't make this thing about you, your feelings or your morning sugar.
It's this type of prima dona type of engineer that I try to avoid at all cost.