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For any society where breeding domesticated animals is a familiar aspect of life for most people, I would guess this isn’t obscure knowledge.

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The subtleties of human courtship that enable bilateral pleasure and the principles of animal husbandry are quite orthogonal.

Yes, but TFA starts with questioning whether women knew about insertion.

I think that is false, but struggle to explain my point without being excessively graphic. People get a lot of bad advice, that results in people being anxiously stuck in their head during sex, trying to "do a good job" and "pleasure their partner."

The reality is mammals have instincts that make sex pleasurable both both parties, and it is usually shockingly aggressive, even violent seeming. If people could get out of their head and into their body and primal desires- and quite literally act more like an animal, they'd have much better sex.

Given that most animals get it done in under a minute for fear of predation or other violence, I'm guessing the author is male.

Chimps and bonobos, our nearest cousins, do have a pretty spectacular sexual toolbox of course that acts as a kind of social lubricant. But it's not all about reproduction, or even pleasure, and quite a lot of what they get up to will get you jailed in most countries.

I am a straight man, but talking from the perspective of what women partners have told me they enjoyed, and were interested in doing repeatedly- and it has consistently involved acting 'dominant/primal,' physically aggressive, and getting deeply into my body and out of my head. Not everyone likes the same thing of course, unlike animals consent, communication, and mutual understanding are key- and much more so than usual when trying things like this.

Counter-intuitively, getting into this headspace makes sex last much longer, not shorter- I suspect human bodies and minds are different from a lot of other mammals in this regard. It is more often that anxiety, tension, and over intellectualizing causes issues with men not lasting long enough.

You're assuming that if it's natural, it's good.

One glance at the animal kingdom - there are plenty of natural practices that will put you in prison for life.

Not at all- we're mammals but we're also humans, and you need to navigate both sides of that in a way other species never could or would. What I am talking about is essentially a form of BDSM that absolutely requires consent, deep mutual trust, and communication- even more so than usual when trying things like this together with a partner.

Funny how the animals having no problems figuring it out.

Anyone who has adopted a kitten too young to spay will know very well she knows what to do once her body develops. It's interesting humans know how to eat, drink and ablute but need to be taught in the most essential:reproduce.

Note: true, teenagers! I completely forgot =/

Have you met/seen teenagers?

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