> When we’re told that something we see as ordinary – like eating meat – is actually wrong, our first reaction is to get irritated and dismissive.
I am experiencing this firsthand in debates about urban transportation policy. One part of the challenging is getting people to recognize the negative impacts of cars (pollution, injuries, parking space) and car-dependent designs (unwalkable neighborhoods, little consideration for mass transit service, no autonomy with a car).
Another part of the challenge is to dispel myths about cycling: that bikes are just for kids, bikes are for exercise and not transportation, bike lanes are a waste of space, cyclists don't pay road tax, you can't bike in bad weather, etc.
> efforts to use the term ‘survivor’ instead of ‘victim’ when referring to people who have been sexually assaulted – were also seen as preachy and annoying
Continuing with my experiences in transportation debates, there are a few proposed changes to mainstream language that I agree with.
One is to never describe a traffic collision as an "accident", and instead call it a "crash" or "collision". This is because these "accidents" happen at a predictable rate and have mundane, preventable causes (e.g. drunk driving, dangerous road geometry, poor visibility, lack of police enforcement, heavy vehicles proliferating, protests against speed cameras, deliberately engineered prioritization of speed over safety in road design).
Another is to stop using the passive voice (almost universally used in news reports), which draws attention away from the culpable driver and makes it sound like a random act of God: "6-year-old killed in accident with SUV" versus "SUV driver kills 6-year-old in a crash".
> When new norms are enforced by the community, it can add fuel to the fire, leading to embarrassment and alienation, which can deepen social divisions and quickly tip into fear, anger and outright hostility.
Exhibit A: An unhinged person who cut down a speed camera and threw it in a pond. https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/toronto-speed-camera-vandal... . People are indignant about any decrease in the freedom to drive without restrictions or accountability.