1. I would go out alone to some events, but most of the time I would end up not speaking to anyone because people were not approachable. Everyone else is typically in groups and closed off to outside interactions. There were some exceptions but that was the norm.
2. I'd search for some hobby/interest groups that would fit my interests, but nothing really fits. Either there are no meetups for such interests or there are meetups but the demographic at those meetup is not the demographic that I am interested in meeting.
3. Out of desperation I tried to be open minded and joined some hobby groups and did some sports that were really out of character for me. Here I did meet some interesting people, but I did not make a good impression because I was so obviously out of place.
4. Eventually my Friday nights consisted of going for a swim at 21:00-22:00 or going to the library of the nearest university so that I could feel some kind of social warmth sitting in a hall with all the other people.