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is it really "inceldom" to not want an app to literally rig my matches to not be the best matches until I put X time into it?

Look into some of the dark patterns used today compared to 2010 before making an assumption on people wanting an "ethical dating app". Especially in a community skewed on tech.

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Sure, it's just that sometimes when people talk abou "ethical" dating and dating apps they are mostly talking about limiting the top guys from taking most of the women or keeping most of the women busy. Usualy via forced monogamy or some sort of forced "fair play". I'm of the opinion that top guys should have a bigger piece of the pie than the avg dude but there should be a limit, something in-between "winner takes all" and monogamy.

Maybe on a general forum. But "software ethics" is a topic of increasing interest as of late, and a community like HN would point to dating apps as exhibit B of dark software patterns that enshittify society as a whole. That's my first and best interpretation of such a comment on here.

Social dynamics after these dark patterns are resolved is a whole other topic. And honestly not a topic I'm interested in talking about.

You already know there is an overlap between the two.

In the same way there's an overlap between video gamers and school shooters, sure.

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