I think they put themself out there a bit in writing, which is commendable, and we don't know the full story.

I think the value is to reflect upon our own situations, and mentally file away these stories for future reference and reflection.

> And suddenly wanting to "find yourself" when you don't need the support any more.

It's like you took away the literal opposite meaning of what OP wrote. The entire post is him sharing his personal crisis and total lack of purpose and motivation. He is literally saying he does not know what he needs to find his way out of that.

But he decided he needed to not be in a relationship (or in that specific relationship) at this time. How does that make him a shitty person?

Surely you're not suggesting he should stick with her so she can partake in the financial gains.

what should he have done? given her half first?

Life doesn't always play out with clean narratives. People change in unexpected ways and sometimes getting through a tough time is specifically what prompts growth.

The alternative is to live a lie or never change.