> This has to be extremely rare in today's connected world.
I'm unsure how Internet and today's connected world is related to coordinate bilingualism. As an example of how coordinate bilingualism happens, my gf will speak to her mother in Kirundi most of the time. However, they both have the same job and when the discussion is work-related, they switch to French because of all the technical language that is in French, even though Kirundi is their native language.
Another example, my mother-in-law, again, will mostly speak in Kirundi with her siblings. However, when she or one of her siblings is recounting a story or a memory, they will switch to Swahili even if it's a second, or maybe third, language. She says that Swahili is "better" for storytelling and it's done naturally without thinking about it.
If you want a third example, for me there is a clear separation between French and English. To me, English is the language for internet forum and get access to more entertainments. It is definitely not a language that was ever used at home or work or that I was exposed to at home, not one time in the last four decades. And no, I don't live in the 18th century nor I missed Internet revolution. But again my brain isn't so colonized I'd send my kids to an English speaking school.