It's not. Centralization of liquidity is better for everyone. HFT thrives on fragmentation of liquidity. HFT is not wrong, but fragmentation of liquidity is.
This is very obvious in institutional FX. Pure "retail" flow will get quoted much tighter spreads by banks and market makwrs than you'll see on any ECN. Yes, it can get skweded against predictable flow, but a true "noise" trader won't be affected by that and will definitely be better off with tailored liquidity.
Unless you have a good high frequency predictor and low latency order management (you don't), you're going to experience adverse selection. Either because you're taking resting orders that HFTs are smart enough to avoid or because your resting orders get run over by informed traders.
Yes, absolutely. The best feeds (tightest spreads) are only given to specific clients who are requested to trade exclusively with them. If they detect you splitting your orders up between venues, they'll worsen your feed. The feed they'll send to public lit ECNs will generally be their worst (widest spread).
MM takes on risk, can offer tighter spread when not exploited (ex. HFT arbitrage)
Could theoretically take advantage by manipulating prices
But is already operating within the bounds of the existing public spread