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I feel sorry for the mother or whoever was taking care of your child for the first 3 years.

Someone has to guide the small children towards being functional human beings and it's a lot of work. I found they have interesting personalities and ways of expressing themselves by 1 at the latest.

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One does the best one can. But I guess "intentionally detaching" doesn't convey the best.

Even ignoring the extra work for the mother or whoever is actually providing the care, this conscious decision is not cost free for the future of the relationship with the child. It makes it harder to straighten the ship later.

> this conscious decision is not cost free for the future of the relationship with the child

Same for the relationship with the wife, they remember.

I wasn't too interested in my son till 1 yr old but I did all the housework ( cooking, cleaning, laundry), taking my son to all doctors appointments, taking him with me to grocery shopping, outdoor walks and to the park.

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