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Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life

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Yeah, I'll take with a large sack of salt anything written by someone peddling a book on how to attract women, especially when there are no provided links to any supporting evidence despite their claims of "the science says x".

Take a look at http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/. It's an entire site dedicated to explaining the effects of porn on your sex drive and encouraging men to give it up. Lots of links to supporting evidence there.

The article is really more about the author's personal experience with giving up porn and that of his readers. I gave it up myself earlier this year, and have noticed a definite improvement. Don't have issues with getting/keeping it up. I don't think my results were as near as impressive as others were either, as I wasn't anywhere near watching it daily.

As for the book on how to attract women, I'm not sure what advising guys to give up porn has to do with it. Wouldn't you be fine with guys watching it, because that encourages them to idealize women and fantasize about sleeping with them more? Giving up porn would cause them to become less obsessed with their sex life and focus more on the rest of their lives. Don't know how that means they're more likely to buy dating advice. Which is fine by us because we're gearing the site to be less and less about dating these days :)

Lots of local women want to meet me.

It's probably because of all the iPads I've won.

"According to the science, porn trains our brains to release more endorphins than is natural in response to an overload of sexual stimuli. After a while, our brains become desensitized and develop a need for higher and higher stimuli in order to reach the same arousal and excitement."

Um, isn't that just how the brain reacts to everything? If you have sex with your wife every day, unfortunately you'll also get bored or driven to trying more and more kinky stuff (having her dress like princess Lea and what not).

Not really, the other elements of sex are what keep 'regular' sex interesting; the connection, the variety of foreplay or positions, the fact that there's a real person there :D

I won't pretend to know much about the science behind it, but my understanding is that a habit of porn removes the link between being horny and then becoming sexually aroused. So instead of getting an erection because you see your sexy wife, you're getting one because you're so used to watching porn at 2 am before bed. And the extremely graphic and immediate nature of porn means that habit is a very strong one. It's like a chocolate bar in the immediate gratification and overwhelming of your senses. Whereas sex with a wife is more like a delicious but wholesome meal you sit down and enjoy. And that continues to be delicious no matter how much you eat it.

Oh, and since when was wanting your wife to dress up as Princess Leia seen as kinky? :P

I don't agree with this. I think it is VERY common that couples who have been with each other for a long period of time need to "spice it up" to keep things going.

Eating the same "wholesome meal" for twenty years will get boring no matter what. Throw some chili sauce on that shit and spice it up!

A really good ted talk which expands on this idea: http://www.ted.com/talks/zimchallenge.html

I think that like anything, especially something pleasurable, you must adhere to the golden mean and moderate the activity.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argument_to_moderation also known as the golden mean fallacy

It's not clear to me how the fallacy you link to applies in this case.

This is becoming a popular subject lately. See also:

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

http://reddit.com/r/nofap

Brain works in completely moronic and unpredictable ways, I desperately want an API to script it.

Then there would be (approximately) 7 billion and one standards.

This comment made me finally make an account, and laugh loud enough at work to get questioned. An API would be amazing, but how would it manage the female brain? (I've yet to understand it)

You understand the male brain? I think there might be a couple of Nobel prizes you need to claim...

Good point, I barely understand my own.

Thank you for registering an account specifically to post a sexist joke.

I registered an account to respond, the horrible joke came while wondering if I should really post or not. I've got no issue editing it out if it bothers anyone.

Hey, why isn't this showing up on the front page anymore?

It was right there a minute ago and it's not showing up on page 2 or 3 either.

Indeed, it dropped off the front page several times: http://hnrankings.info/4217596/ (the rank gets updated every 5 minutes, but at 11:55 and 12:20 there is no data point in the graph.)

Compare it with a more typical curve: http://hnrankings.info/4216152/

Article might just be very controversial, with lots of up and downvotes.

Not sure. Maybe it triggered some sort of filter because it's about pornography. Does anyone know if there's anyone you can contact about this? I've tried emailing the ycombinator address, but I'm not super hopeful for a reply.

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