Yep, this is pretty easy. No one ever has to say yes to an arbitrary sexual partner -- if you don't want a penis in your sexual life, rad, feel free to express that preference.

I'll disagree, I'm here for all stripes, and I guess I'd consider the vomit emoji to be way ruder than necessary for expressing a simple personal preference, but I'd tolerate that opinion being posted somewhere.

Denying trans people exist is transphobic. It's a ban in my book. If someone says, "I'd like to learn more about the differences between sex and gender... because they seem the same to me" I'm happy to spend basically infinite time teaching/explaining/dialoging. But if you come out with "only two genders" and "lesbians cannot have penises" I'm done conversing and you can get sent packing.

I'm not open to the idea that trans people are an illness any more than I'm open to the idea that gay people are an illness. No time or space in my life for that hate.