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It's not sexual harassment, it's flattery to get you to do a favor for them. They would never sleep with you. It's also extremely normal and anodyne.

Why do men think sexism is symmetrical? The reason sexual overtures from men are a problem is because they are usually serious and they are statistically threatening, because men often hurt women who don't respond to them in a way they deem appropriate. You would never fear this woman.

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As a fearful anxious man - Don't presume to know what I fear.

I expect variation in the women I meet, some will be scared of me and some have much bigger balls than I do. If I calibrate my banter such that 1% of women are scared, am I in the wrong?

All that matters is how real is what you fear. Any difference between fear and reality is for shrinks to deal with, not public policy.

"It's not sexual harassment, it's flattery to get you to do a favor for them. They would never sleep with you."

That's the same with men too, usually. Why do you think it's sexism?

If rules and laws aren't going to be applied equally to women the way they are to men, then why should men and women ever be treated equally?

Black people are statistically much, much more likely to commit rape, murder, and robbery than any other racial group. Would you agree this is reason to fear black people, the way you believe it's justified to fear men? I mean "they are statistically threatening" after all.

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