Find smaller communities where this is less of a problem? Possibly filled with neurodivergent people you click with?
Like, there is a reason Discord I am most active in is full of people that have ADHD. And big chunk on spectrum. And big chunk queer.
Other thing I presonally often use is ... many times I got bad reaction online, it was because I posted my opinion on particular thing, and too many people took it as if I am stating an universally true fact. So I am adding little extra things that make it clearer that I am not making universal statements.
I.e. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38899647 I spent 5 lines advocating how diversity is the best - but I still end on "But I do understand the pull of insular culture and small villages, where diversity is less of a virtue."