I don't officially "have ADHD" but I have related things that often come with "ADHD-like symptoms" which as I've gotten older seem to either get worse or just come to the forefront more. So I open this article looking for something and... man, it is really shocking and bizarre to see basically my entire life-success strategy independently written down by someone else.

Some are worthy of specific comment:

> These suggestions assume that the primary challenge is knowing what to do rather than the neurological capacity to consistently execute such systems.

YES YES YES YES YES. I am utterly sick of being told to make a to-do list (thanks, therapist, last Monday). I have a list. I have a half-dozen discarded lists. Lists are not the problem. Someday I will find the solution?

> Be exceptionally helpful when you can, so people are more forgiving when you drop administrative balls

It's kind of hilarious to see this written down, because usually when people seek me out for help (or I go to them to help)... it's something novel or at least a change of pace for me... so it automatically activates the novelty circuits in my brain and I get really into helping out anyway. Brains are weird.

> Being explicitly upfront about your administrative weaknesses early in relationships

This one caught some flak upthread but for me it is as simple as saying "hey, I'm not always great about responding to pings, if it's important just ping me twice and that usually works" (which, for me, it does). Saying that kind of little thing explicitly can go a long way.

> it's like trying to teach advanced machine learning to someone with an IQ of 100.

Everyone already agrees this is ridiculous, but I have to say it too: this is ridiculous.