But you're concerned about an issue I do not have. In practice retransmits are rare between my endpoints, and if they did occur poor performance is acceptable for some period of time. I just need it to me fast most of the time. To reiterate: I do not care about what happens in non-optimal conditions.
> it looks like I've just accidentally described phantun (and maybe other solutions): https://github.com/dndx/phantun
I'll definitely look into that. They specifically mention being more performant than udp2raw, so that's nice.