For example I'm familiar with https://gorm.io and it does save me a lot of time and useless boilerplate.
And guess what, if I ever need to make a complex query, I also happen to know SQL, and I'm just going to make a "raw" query https://gorm.io/docs/sql_builder.html#Raw-SQL and be done with it.
It's not all that hard.
edit:
the other common complaint usually is: "but I don't know what query the orm is going to make..."
Use "Debug" https://gorm.io/docs/session.html#Debug and it will print out exactly what query it's making. Not happy with it? Make a raw query.