Isn't our brain made of chemicals of all kinds, and how we 'feel' is based on many chemical interactions, and so the "a reasonable way to feel given what you've been through", is the brains natural 'reasonable way to feel' as a reaction given some environment it is in.
So this is just measuring that reaction.
Maybe think of it more as analyzing why things are, and not as fixing an error. Like science does. Measure it.