Consider the volume of a cap. Take a plane that is 90% of the distance from the centre to the edge, and look at what percentage of the volume is "outside" that plane. When the dimension is high, that volume is negligible.
And when the dimension is really high you can get quite close to the centre, and still the volume you cut off is very small. In our 3D world the closest thing that has this property is a spike. You can cut off quite close to the centre, and the volume excised is small.
The sense in which a high-dimensional ball is not a spikey thing is in the symmetry, and the smoothness.
So when you want to develop an intuition for a high dimensional ball you need to think of it as simultaneously symmetrical, smooth, and spikey.
Then think of another five impossible things, and you can have breakfast.
This to me feels similar in many ways to how a corner in a high dimensional n-cube, although 90 degrees, no matter how you measure it, seems extremely spiky. As the shape does not increase in width, but the corners extend arbitrarily far away from the center. A property reserved for spiky things in 3D.
However, if I have the n-sphere x_1^2 + x_2^2 + ... + x_n^2 = 1, knowing the value of x_1 gives me very little information about all the other coordinates. And humans' interaction with the geometry is reality is somewhat limited to manipulating one coordinate at a time, i.e., our intuition is for built on things like moving our body linearly through space, not dilating the volume or surface area of our bodies.
"So instead of considering n-balls to be spiky, it’s the space around them that outgrows them."
You should have seen how few replies read the last article I posted. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=40525629 The majority of the comments, including all the top ones, expressed insights as original, that were pretty thoroughly analyzed in the article. Just read my mildly frustrated replies.
I have thoughts about this, but I can find no way to contact you to open a conversation. You might want to think about adding something to your HN profile.
Meanwhile ... from this and other sources, I feel your pain.