(not a response to your particular comment but to the entire subthread)

I have a feeling that the spectrum of responses to this comment—how varied and how intense many were—is mostly a function of cultural differences.

Ways of relating to such matters vary a lot with national/cultural/religious/family background. Unfortunately, on an internet forum we lack the usual implicit ways of recognizing such differences which help modulate this sort of conversation in real life.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23308098

Parentification is never a solution. It’s merely a cruel way to spread misery to another person who doesn’t deserve it.

That would be an incredibly cruel thing to do to a child.

This is awful and cruel to do, no.

> I hate to say this…

Then don’t say it. Do us all a favor.

i think this is a reasonable consideration.