They also can claim a clear moral victory of doing the right thing and stopping sable from continuing to harass companies doing actual work.
Bullies may either have psychological issues, abuse issues at home with their family, or they may be in a gang. “Standing up to a bully” in junior high or high school may get you jumped by the whole gang, maybe even stabbed. The bully may harbor a grudge and make sure to make an example of you.
More broadly, this idea countries have that “this time we’ll retaliate and hit them so hard, they won’t retaliate and hit us back anymore” is what leads to endless escalation in wars.
There are better ways to deal with bullies than “standing up to them” as an individual.
Countries operate on a different scale. The people in charge are rarely the ones suffering in wars which completely changes the calculus.
https://nypost.com/2023/12/13/news/student-hospitalized-afte...
https://mustreadalaska.com/watch-video-clark-middle-school-s...
https://www.reddit.com/r/LegalAdviceUK/comments/lxxbjv/my_12...
And also, you can get in trouble yourself for fighting, especially if you're a male and the bully is a female that's in a group that "picks on" you:
https://utahparentcenter.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/EleE...
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7646992
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7647094
Wouldn't it be better to just tell your parents and involve the authorities at the school or police?
If it worked then great, many kids find that it doesn’t work. No strategy solves all conflicts. Posturing as if you’re going to resort to violence can definitely backfire, but when backed up by a history of violence it’s far from useless.
One time I've thrown the bully down the stairs, other time I've hit him with a chair and the last time it was when the bully stole my phone, started going through the photos my girlfriend sent me and commenting them inappropriately - I've smashed his face so hard, the glasses flew like 4 meters away. I was short and overweight, they've never expected the amounts of power I could generate when in rage mode.
So from my limited, anegdotal experience - it works. It also shows other people that they can stand up to the bully and the bully is not some all-powerful being that has to define their present and future.
Anyway, there was a guy who was a big “fan” of WWE wrestling, kept calling out the catchphrases from the show and often bullying me physically. I didn’t really fight back or escalate.
Once I got my knees banged up somewhere else, and he had pushed me to the floor, and they started bleeding again. My mom went over to where he had lived and talked to his dad. His dad begged my mom not to get the police involved because his son had already been in trouble multiple times. He prevailed on his son (I guess threatening him to leave me the f alone) and I hardly saw him since.
Going back several years, when I had just moved to the neighborhood and I was 8, there was a 10-year old kid who kept bullying everyone. Sort of whipping people with chains or whatever, I don’t quite remember. Anyway in 6th grade I got caught trying to steal a small vial of white-out from a store (back then it was a useful commodity LOL) and they kept me in the back office while they called my parents. The guy took my picture and said he’ll tell the school. He said, “you’re surprisingly calm, this kid was bawling his eyes out”. I look and it’s a picture of the bully guy LOL. He’s totally lost it on that photo.
After my mom picked me up, I stayed up that whole night worrying what they will tell me in school. Then it turned out they had never been told.
I guess the commin thread of all these stories is that we all exist in a system and many people dread being punished by that system far more than they are worried about violence. The kids got into fights constantly. Fighting back against an older kid would not have likely done anything to “change their mind”, if anything it would have activated a “revenge” mindset and they’d call their “friends”.
So much historical evidence points to the contrary. A decisive defeat of the enemy brings a lasting piece. Insufficient use of force (nowadays often due to humanitarian concerns) leads to a simmering conflict that costs more lives in the long run.
It is called using third party arbitration and enforcement.
I can agree with disproportionate responses to people or things I don't like, and if you have the means to do so should try it at least once to screw with someone who has been a thorn in your side. If this is one of those situations, bravo.
I would still be wary of calling this a win as you say.
It converts a regular rent payment into a one time fee, and scares the crap out of anyone thinking to do something similar.