This is my dead grandmother's Special Day

I have a similar habit for the folks in my life that were important. Old friends that I've found have passed, you know the type.

I learned early on that it's a bad idea to include any sort of cause in the date label. When "Suicide: [redacted]" and a picture of celebratory party poppers hit my phone a few years ago, I crumpled -- the person it was reminding me of had been a good friend for years and had encouraged me to learn and do.

He couldn't fight his own demons though.

Ah, man, I feel for you. It has been years since my grandmother passed, but I still sometimes wake up screaming at night. This kind of thing would be torture for me. I avoid all things big tech - but the dates of the events themselves are still emblazoned in my mind. I hope some day we are both able to look back and just remember they loved us and we loved them... Until then, stay strong. I hope the saying "time heals all wounds" is accurate... Because I haven't seen it as of yet.

This is painful, I couldn't bear to do this. I still have an email rule to delete anything mentioning "Father's Day". And then I went scorched-earth-forget-everything and moved every picture of him into a tarball that wouldn't show up in a gallery view. One of these days I'll get around to unpacking that grief.