The "starter kit" I would suggest is:
- temperature controlled soldering iron. This is worth the premium over "dumb" irons, especially for leadfree solder. People have different opinions about brands, but try Hakko or Weller. Start with a small chisel tip
- solder paste is a more advanced substance, and is perishable and should be kept in the fridge. Stick to a reel of thin solder to get started
- flux pen is surprisingly useful
- resistors are cheap enough that you can just buy all of them: https://www.aliexpress.com/item/4001321720241.html
- ICs you should stick to Digikey or other local supplier and NOT aliexpress
- PCBs: services like JLPCB will make these and ship them to you
- desk lamp. Possibly one with a magnifier.
- some people will get serious about fume extraction; personally I quite like the smell of flux and just leave a window open. Be careful with airflow in case you blow away smaller components
- solder braid: annoying, doesn't work well. Try a solder sucker
- advanced but extremely useful tool: solder tweezers
- hot air gun and/or oven: again a more advanced tool, but critical for certain parts. Avoid those parts.
- simple boards you can probably solder with a cheapo (~50-100$) soldering system, or a solder-paste+hot air machine setup
- components you can get for very cheap from LCSC, aliexpress or at okay prices but good reliability from digikey, mouser etc.
You'll also need stuff like multimeter, ocsilloscope, logic analyzers, etc for debugging your boards but you'll know when you need them, and there are cheap-enough options available up to the point when you start doing advanced stuff and you know what you need.
A 3/4" copper pipe elbow JB Welded on one of them turns it into a 90 degree bottom-board heater and other is waved by hand over the top of the board.
Nearby parts can be protected with a little Kapton tape or other heat resistant shielding.
Here's a SparkFun blog post: https://www.sparkfun.com/news/3319