most vps don't support xmr though.
any suggestions to whom I can trust (I basically only trust hetzner in vps space)
Either they are grossly negligent/incompetent (IMO unlikely given the extent of their research), or they knew it was intercepted on purpose (either by law enforcement, the provider itself or one of their upstreams) and intentionally aren't saying so. They could also be withholding or lying about any number of things, including the exact response from the hosting providers.
I am kind of shocked because I really got positive feedback of hetzner from what I heard from people.
I need to post about this on r/vps and hear about people's opinion.
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