I don't really think it much matters, tbh, as both factors are out of my control, but it can feel extremely isolating at times. Positive intentions can only overcome so many differences in conversation and social expectations.
I think it does matter, because while it is out of your individual control, we can still work to push society to be more accepting and accommodating.
Sorry, I should have said "from my immediate perspective". Society certainly has a responsibility to autistic people that is mostly overlooked, although I am not complaining personally.