Chats? The only IM apps with functional E2EE are: Signal, iMessage, WhatsApp; and even those have trade-offs. Treat everything else as readable by some third party, and dating apps by design need to be able to look into people's chats to be able to handle harassment cases.
That of course is no excuse for having gaping security/privacy holes, but you're trading off quite a bit of privacy by design; it's like meeting in a public space where you can feel a little bit safer with someone you don't know yet.
I'd say if you're concerned with any of that, go meet new people IRL, but there are 100% legitimate cases where this is not the most effective strategy (e.g. Feeld's primary target audience).