I'm not torn at all. Ads are cancer. They're either un-curated and malware, or curated on my private data and disturbingly targeted. I reject both types.
I can't speak for GP, but don't care how a site is funded, unless it's my site.
If a particular site goes away, it's no skin off my nose.
Don't want to spend an arm and a leg for bandwidth? Don't include megabutts of JS, CSS, images, etc. Optimize and respect your users/guests.
Youtube would cost any normal company untold millions per month just in bandwidth costs alone, and there's actually so much more to it. I would bet money that even Discord's bandwidth bills are at least 1 million USD per month if not more.