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Comment by mritchie712 | Hacker News Reader

especially good when that common activity isn't: we're both drinking at this bar

Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend. I rarely date someone outside my extended circle even if I was trying to. We inevitably happen to know someone in common.

That said, bars are a great way to expand that circle. Dating is just one aspect of socializing. People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy.

> People who go to bars specifically just to "pick up" are creepy.

What does that mean?

That a lot of people go to bars to hang out with their friends, or especially hang out with their friends + meet some new friends of friends.

And it's kind of weird to just go to a bar, alone, and try and find other lonely people to fuck for a single night.

But hey, that's what some people are looking for.

I'd argue this isn't weird but anthropologically speaking the norm. This being considered "weird" in and off itself is more like a very recent social development.

you gotta love this idea that you're a creep if you're alone. Only show up if you already have friends. So if you have no friends there's no way to get any because you're a creep if you're alone

we need a new woke meme to shame people who shit on people who don't have friends

There’s a difference between going to a bar alone, and going alone with the sole intention to find a one-night-stand. It’s the latter people find creepy.

Where do you think people should go to find a one night stand?

They just think actively looking for one night stands is creepy, so the answer is nowhere.

> Easiest way to meet someone is for them to be a friend of a friend

That assumes your friends have friends to introduce you too. Mine almost never have.

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