One more reason to stop tattooing.
Moreover, having a tattoo isn’t necessarily a measure of low impulse control. I have friends who have ruminated for years about a certain tattoo. Plus, imputing bad decision making to having a tattoo is more a (cultural) projection on your part than anything else.
> If you want to broadcast your low impulse control and bad decision making history, be my guest.
> I do think less of someone with tattoos
And then:
> would never ever say anything to anyone to make them feel bad about it.
Which one is it?
My tattoos have worked great so far, even online!
If you're quick to judge someone's character based on their tattoos, it suggests a tendency toward superficial assessments. I find it difficult to trust critical decisions made by someone who relies on such surface-level judgments. In my experience, those with narrow, dogmatic worldviews are often less interested in finding real solutions and more preoccupied with adhering to authority and bureaucratic norms.
A transparent tattoo has parts inside of it where the skin is still completely visible or the skin is partially visible.
A solid tattoo blocks out your natural skin color entirely and is generally associated with criminal gangs such as the Japanese Yakuza or tattoo addictions.
Is the organizational pressure that seeks conformity filtering out tattoos based on tattoos or the lack of conformity? It's tough to understand whether you're saying more about self-perpetuating hierarchies or tattoos.
I'm aligned with your base point. I'm not seeking to extend my rational to anyone other than people who make their opinions well known.
Disgust is one of the most easily telegraphed human reactions. Also, haters with suboptimal impulse control can't avoid using any and every soapbox at their disposal to make sure you know where they stand on the matter.
Exempli gratia: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41374358
In fact, many tattoos take months of consideration and require setting aside a non-trivial amount of money.
Not that you’d know that, since you make judgements based on the color of people’s skin.
She has vitiligo so has little control over how she looks. Tattoos make her confident and give her back control.
You should judge people less.
I’ve offered a perspective that you may not have seen before.
The existence of hypocrisy doesn’t excuse you from fault for trying to offend every person with a tattoo.
Me thinking someone has low impulse control isn't an offense. Me telling them they have low impulse control is an offense (i never said this to anyone). Me being honest about the thought that came into my mind in a discussion board is also not an offense. And I cannot control the thoughts that come to my mind, only my actions after. If anything I learned to keep my mouth shut from this thread, it's the first and last time I discuss tattoos.
people have four levels of being, there's conscious you, lizard brain, addict brain, and ideal brain. lizard brain gets the most time. it's the baser sider of things that we can't help, like who we're attracted to (masc/femme/nb) or what we think of people with tattoos. Then there's conscious brain. that's the part of us that's rational and can recognize that lizard brain does and thinks dumb things. addict brain is where there's something you're addicted to. chemical/digital/physical; whatever. addict brain will rationalize that something that conscious brain knows is wrong into being okay. Oh it's just $10 dollars and it's only Candy crush. idea brain is who you are after an interaction has happened, when you win the argument in the shower or wake up knowing the solution to a problem. sometimes idea brain will happen in the moment, but most of the time it happens later.
anyway, we can't help lizard brain, especially when we're sleep deprived, high/drunk/groggy/strongly emotional, and it can say some horrible shit. some people are able to acknowledge that this happens to everyone and exists and is human and forgive other people when they do something, others pretend like that they're not like that and that it never happens to them.
This is the divide between introvert and extrovert, btw. introverts can't "mask off" around other people, so being around other people is exhausting for them. if they say they don't belive something but that this thought still happens, eg that people with tattoos are impulsive, they get excoriated for voicing having had the thought.
sadly, as you've found, the open Internet just isn't the place for that. thankfully, there are small private communities where people do understand such detail and nuance, but they're hard to find.
cards on the table though, my current tattoo wasn't the result of much planning, but having gotten one, I more respect the time and effort that goes into getting really good ones.
on my wish list is the https://imprintu.com/ temporary tattoo printer, which seems fun.
Except I didn’t get offended.
Note that the parent hasn’t responded to the alternative perspective I offered; so I don’t really buy the “I’m here for discussion” spiel.
I can't find a way to read OP's comment that isn't derisive. I don't see we get "I just want a discussion" out of it.
Heck, reputable artists boom out for months.
I have several other tattoos that I have been thinking about for years. I have mapped out at least a general guide of where the tattoos I plan on getting, likely over at least the next 10 years on my body.
Tattoos are expensive. Most are not going to impulse something that expensive.
Thankfully most people have some common sense and realize that tattoos are just another way of expressing who you are and not trying to force uniformity. There are still some weird views about "acceptable" tattoo locations but thats another story.
I won't even hide my tattoo's for an interview, if you have a problem with it thats your problem and I don't care to work with you.
I don't know. I mean I am still eventually going to get the tattoos, the meaning of all of the tattoos I want are important to me. So technically no the plan hasn't changed and I am actively talking to an artist about my next tattoo. But what exactly to do about this situation... I honestly don't know yet.
I don't even know how I would vet the ink. Just asking if they got it from Amazon sure, but I have to imagine that this is not limited to Amazon and we only learned about it due to scale.
As for most things, there are probably infinite reasons why someone gets tattoos. It seems highly presumptuous, almost egotistical, to presume you somehow know the reasons. You yourself don't know the reasons for why you do things, because choice is complex. You make millions of subconscious choices daily and those choices feed other choices. And then a lot of it was simply fed to you, implemented into your brain and you never bothered to circle back and question it.
I mean, just ask someone why they believe what they believe. Not what their belief is, but WHY they believe it. Most of the time they don't know. They can't tell you. And it's THEIR beliefs that they, supposedly, formed. They own them. But you think you can understand other, random people's, motivation?
I think there's this widespread, I guess, "deficiency" where people can't say "I don't know". It's like the LLMs. They can't look at something, say "I don't know" or "I don't understand" and move on. And you can see this in so, so many things.
Someone the other day asked why gay voice exists and why that's a thing. Truly, I don't know and I don't know that anyone does, even gay men. But of course this other guy chimes in about how they fake it and it's for attention. How could he possibly know that? How did he even come to that conclusion? Why do people do this?