https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/work-hour-training-for-nurses/long....
“The human brain can respond to sleep deprivation by reducing alertness and generating microsleeps – involuntary episodes of sleep lasting a few seconds.
During microsleep, you may appear to be awake (eyes open), but your brain will not process information. Thus, lapses in attention occur.“
In three months minus one day, she'll let me know (again) and, damn if it's not the first I'd heard of that, and damn if my reaction doesn't cause an argument.
I do like reminding people that a lot of strategies / techniques / process improvements which help people with ADHD, also really help non-ADHD people as well. In this case, even someone without ADHD can occasionally forget or not mentally "record" a specific event/calendar date. Both ADHD and non-ADHD people would benefit from a calendar maintained by both them and their partner, along with both partners reviewing the calendar together. And periodic verbal reminders leading up to the day rather than just the day the event is agreed to and the day before the scheduled event.
The goal of most ADHD time-management techniques is to offload what you can out of your executive functioning brain / working memory, so that you can use as much of your working memory as possible for other unplanned & dynamic things that pop up throughout the day. Even if you have an excellent working memory, you still benefit from offloading stuff that doesn't really need to be there.
Issues only crop up for things not put into it, or when they don't have a good breadcrumb trail of reminders leading up to it.
The main issue with my lack of remembering / hearing / listening / caring is that as soon as I walk in the door, before my bag is put down, before I've had time to change out of my work clothes and maybe take a breath, I'm faced with the onslaught of a detailed, step by step account of her day, interspersed with "by the way, we're going to X with Y on the Zth of September". There's no algorithm to separate the small amount of wheat from the abundance of chaff.
I'm a complete arse, but she only notices when I say "you didn't tell me about that!?".