Please just stop. Where are you getting your information?
Maybe some crappy AWD systems have damaged roads at some point, I will give you the benefit of the doubt, but most do not. I've honestly never even heard of this.
4WD absolutely loses traction on roads if you leave the differential locked, and I'm sure if you amortized the extra weight and clueless drivers, 4WD does more damage then AWD.
I got rid of my 4WD truck for an AWD system specifically because the performance was better. It wasn't even close. Trucks suck compared to a Subaru in traction, and off roading for obvious reasons:
1. Trucks have no weight in the back most of the time.
2. Trucks have poor clearance.
3. Subaru's AWD is pretty danged good.
(I really didn't want to like Subarus, trust me, I looked at all the data though, and test drove everything)
Of course, none these vehicles compare to purpose built and custom off-road vehicles, but that's not what we are talking about here...
And yes, I have seen people fix the deficiencies of a truck, and have a nice cargo vehicle that climb cliffs, it's bad ass, but expensive and rare. Those trucks cost as much as a Ferrari.
And again, advanced AWD systems are more advanced and better than 4WD in every single way, and there is even more room for improvement with AWD systems. Why waste sending power down a shaft that has no traction?
Why wouldn't you want more control over more control surfaces of your vehicle?