> From Alexander the grammarian, [I learned] to refrain from fault-finding, and not in a reproachful way to chide those who uttered any barbarous or solecistic or strange-sounding expression; but dexterously to introduce the very expression which ought to have been used, and in the way of answer or giving confirmation, or joining in an inquiry about the thing itself, not about the word, or by some other fit suggestion.
Honestly, this approach also sounds like it has the potential to be insufferable, though I've seen it done skillfully. But I guess it must have been better than the prevailing norm for Marcus Arelius to cherish the wisdom. Maybe to Marcus it was more about the humility therein than about playing the role of a grammar tutor.
If your conversation partner is made to feel like a human on equal footing with you, then you can just mention the mistake candidly without any condescension implied or perceived. Maybe don't try it in settings where you would risk accidentally embarrassing someone.