I absolutely hate how it feels like the e-mail delivery services and Google/Microsoft/whatever are working together to form a protection racket: sure would be a shame if your email were to get lost, better pay us to guarantee it makes it to its destination...

Imagine the outrage if your national snail mail carrier were to shred 50% of all mail which didn't have a Premium Protection stamp. Why do we let the big cloud hosters get away with it?

Very good point.Thats the most painful point in selfhosting email .

> or if you're leveraging a third party SMTP, they will ban you.

Not if you are paying them for the service.

There are ommercial email services that aren't google/microsoft/aws. My former company used to use one (can't remember the name) that provided you with smtp servers and a set of dedicated IPs per customers that were preused by them to build a good reputation beforehand.

I think the point is not necessary that you have to selfhost email (although it can be done, some people do), but depending on a single vendor through a proprietary service/API.

Fixed, I meant SMTP. SES is not open protocol and it's not self hostable. no point in using this for selfhost env