Young adulthood is no longer one of life's happiest times
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Young people starting out didn’t make much but eventually earned more saved and could look forward to a house and affording a family
The U curve is lowest when career starts plateau or decline, financial demands for college couple with a mortgage, and then once kids launch and mortgage is paid off (because you could afford to buy in your 20s), happiness rises.
Every time you’re engaging your attorney, the clock is running, and that usually isn’t the only cost.
The custody system does not work at all how you’d intuitively guess. Courts do not put the children with “the best parent.” I’ve so many friends who are in anguish because their children are abused by the custodial parent and the courts refuse to take any action. 90%+ of all custody appeal requests are denied without being heard.
Assuming our custody system is reasonable, fair, or expeditious is a luxury only had by those who have never been at its mercy.
> halves the risk of divorce
For men, becoming unemployed more than doubles your chance of divorce. This effect is not seen for women.
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11150-020-09506-x | https://doi.org/10.1007/s11150-020-09506-x
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/323934884_Why_does_... | https://doi.org/10.13140/RG.2.2.32674.12489
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2016-07-28/don-t-bla... | https://archive.today/5f7hF
https://www.asanet.org/wp-content/uploads/attach/journals/au...
Everything else is just a footnote.
Hardly anyone thinks it's wonderful at the time. Many people look back on it with fondness ("youth is wasted on the young").
Assuming some other generation had it wonderful is silly. They had their own worries.
It should be possible to extend this research with other factors. There must be a few participants that rarely use smartphones and the internet. Do they show the different results?
If the source is the internet (social media, online videos, ...) we really need to learn more about this. What exactly makes it that harmful.
People can make other people happy without much money, that's my point.
The good news is that as we became independent from our families and the institutions that we were committed to, and found paths in our work and family life to be productive, the majority of us became totally normal, functional people. Would I say "happy"? Sometimes but certainly not always - for almost all of us. Life has its way, with health and work and family issues that larger social or economic issues will never have any influence over, regardless of the era you grow up in.
But this article says that people are least happy at 50. So, I'm 50. Am I happy? Not, like, happy happy. But am I OK? Yeah, sure, I've figured things out, have my own family, it's all turned out OK.
Am I happier than any point in young adulthood in the late '80s and early '90s? Absolutely.
This whole "best years of your life" as a teen or young adult thing is... nonsense. It has nothing to do with the possibilities of the human experience. For some people? Sure, let them have their fun. But I don't want to sound like Dan Savage, but, for everyone, it can get better. Chart your own path, work it out for yourself.
What's the point of anecdotes if the subject is about statistics.
I can also confirm that adolescence sucks. You have many important experience but quality of life just isn't there.
Yes, there was its fun, such as golden age of PC games, pre-Facebook internet and the whole 2007 thing; but my life is far less stressful nowdays, even though I too have family and kids.
(All of the above is in the article.)
Yes, I know every generation has their burdens, but yeah, I think the 'high school/teenage years is the best time of your life' may have been true for a small cohort of folks, but has become a myth perpetuated by the first consumerist generation who then got to shape culture and media for a few decades.
I really feel for them. We have some serious shit to figure out before handing over the reigns. If we can’t, I seriously hope they figure something out.
And I immediately thought he was a fucking pathetic loser who needs to stop raining his shitty life over the rest of us. At 17 I wasn't so stupid to believe that could possibly be true. But you hear that crap non-stop from adults at that age.
For a couple of people in my high school that might have actually been true, though. Seems to correlate with getting drunk and high (sorry, "partying") non-stop.
Also, the teacher got arrested a few years later for shoplifting.
I didn't enjoy high school times, University was ok but I was too introverted back then.
That being said, I'm curious why it seems fairly widespread that everyone had a bad time when they were young. Am millennial, grew up in the 80s and 90s and went to college in the 00s. Junior high was fine. High school was fun. College was great. Afterwards, in adulthood, I think pressure at work caused me the most consistent unhappiness of my life, but I got better at dealing with that over time.
Furthermore, the rest of the variation is highly questionable. The vertical scale on the graph is compressed. The actual difference in the alleged U is only about 0.1, or 3% of the absolute scale value of 3.3. That is a tiny difference. I'd frankly be surprised if it was even statistically significant, let alone indicative of an actual underlying systemic change.
So I'm calling shenanigans here.
UPDATE: I searched for "pandemic" rather than "COVID" so I missed this:
> Later, as he put it, he “thought that everything was COVID.” Now, Blanchflower says, he sees that was an error. “COVID extended trends that had existed before,” he says.
But the data presented do not support this conclusion at all. There are no "trends that had existed before" in the data since all pre-covid data is grouped together in a single data set.
Your hot take:
Kill granny so I can get my nails done and eat at a restaurant.
Whether anything we did actually saved grandma is of course speculative.
More people having access to the care they needed in hospitals undoubtedly saved lives.
Keep drinking that rich people coolaide though. One day, you’ll definitely be rich.
If old people want to vote for the day of the pillow, why stop them?
Then blue states took action while red one did not. Red states all of a sudden dominated per capita impact. Only when their voters were dropping like flies did they suddenly about face. Except that they already latched on to conspiracy theory so swinging the base was difficult. There are still people (op) who lie and state that lockdown did nothing, even after their god emperor did a 180. This is why latching on to fake news and conspiracy to rile people up is dangerous.
> Later, as he put it, he “thought that everything was COVID.” Now, Blanchflower says, he sees that was an error. “COVID extended trends that had existed before,” he says.
> “What you need here is something that starts around 2014 or so, is global and disproportionately impacts the young—especially young women,” he says. “Anybody that comes up with an explanation has got to have something that fits that. Other than cell phones, I don’t have anything.
I don't now maybe seing consequences of global climate change with your bare eyes and noticing most of boomers are in full denial might be a at least a "small" contributing factor? Maybe even more than cell phone if I may dare?
I guess not even the majority see climate change as the biggest threat, there are people who see an equal threat solely in vaccinations or diversity. For others it might be immigration, war or economy.
Maybe the difference is that we invented devices and services to easily share our fears and communicate them to others. 15 years ago most people weren't equipped with the tools to keep a constant stream of new information about "their" biggest fear alive. They might have read a book about it, some articles on the internet, or a documentation on TV. But getting that information needed some effort. Like getting some screen time on the family PC (which took minutes to boot up), going to the book store, or renting a DVD. It was something that you did maybe twice a month. Today everyone can open their favourite apps at any time and get new content about "their" fear multiple times a day. The social media platforms even keep suggesting those new pieces of information, so you see them also if your intention was only to watch some cat videos to calm down before going to bed.
If you don't think so, like the OP, then my youngest point of view about the reason why youngest generation must be fearful of the futur is indeed invalid. I really see no flaw in this reasoning, billions of people are probably gonna dies but that's not gloomy at all...
It's tough to be a kid in an increasingly diverse and changing society. Especially when they are on the forefront of that cultural transformation and have to face relentless attacks from a large part of the adult establishment. We probably need new and different ways to teach and engage with kids, but instead the conversation usually ends up about phones or pronouns. Like when people used to complain about too much TV and violent video games. These specific obsessions distract from the actual issues, which is and has always been about making mental health a core focus of our society.
Are you saying young people like being given rules?
It's not relevant to the majority, unless they want to obsess about it and want to feel offended by it.
But maybe the need to find something to be obsessed and feel threatend about is exactly the issue here. It can be anything that's different than it used to be. It might be also something that is exactly as it used to be and doesn't change.